Mind over Madness: How to Make a Self-care Toolkit

Self-care is a buzzword that we hear often in today’s world. One of my favorite quotes from a former boss is “Self-care isn’t selfish.” I think , for so long, we were trained by society to work and work until we had nothing left. We were wired to believe that the only thing that mattered was the next step and making money. This was the case even when the work we were doing was good and life-giving. This created a detrimental impact on the mental health of millions of people. I truly believe that this is why self-care has become such a focus lately. 

So what is self- care? 

Self-care is the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health. This can look like so many things. This can be:

  1. Sleep
  2. Exercise
  3. A hot bath 
  4. Reading a book
  5. Taking a walk
  6. Unplugging from technology and social media
  7. Etc. 

The great thing about self-care being so versatile is that it is easily individualized. It is called “Self” care for a reason. You are engaging in activities that give you life and revitalize your spirit. It is the perfect reason to give yourself permission to be all about yourself for a little while. Self-care is an opportunity for you to focus on your own needs so that you can have the energy to pour into those around you when they need you. If you don’t take time to fill yourself up, you won’t have anything to pour out. So, in a way, your needs are just as, if not more, important than the needs of those around you. 

What if you don’t know where to start for your own self-care regimen? Well, you have come to the right place! I am going to give a few tips and tricks for creating your very own Self-Care tool kit so that when you need some well-deserved TLC you have all the necessary items to give yourself exactly that!

  1. Snuggle up:  Item # 1 in your tool kit should be your special blanket. When we are in need of self care we are also usually in need of physical comfort. So, put on your most comfortable sweatpants and shirt with your fuzziest socks and snuggle up in your favorite spot with your comfy blanket. 
  2. Indulge sight and scent with Candles: Item # 2 in your tool kit should be a simple lavender or vanilla scented candle. Citrus scents also work well to help clear your mind. Watching the flicker of the flame is soothing for an unquiet mind. Add in a nice smelling scent and you’ve struck gold! 
  3. Escape with a book: Item # 3 in your tool kit should be your favorite book, or any book that you enjoy/ want to read that will help you to not focus on everything around you for a bit. Another quote that I really enjoy and wholeheartedly believe in is “A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. The man who never reads lives only one.” Reading allows you the opportunity to escape your world, if only for a few minutes, and embrace that of another. 
  4. Bliss out in a bath: Item # 4 in your tool kit should be a warm bath. You can create this however you like. Add in some bath bombs, epsom salt, light some candles, etc. Whatever will make you feel relaxed. You can even bring your book with you and read while you relax in the warm water. 
  5. Help yourself: Item # 5 in your tool kit should be positive thoughts. Think about the things you can control and focus on that. Look into finding some self-help feel good literature that interests you and will help you shift your perspective. 

When you are energized, rested, and taken care of, you are filled. When you are filled you begin to overflow into those around you. You begin to discover more good in the world when you feel good. 

Marinate on this idea: When you feel good, you attract good! 

Adaptations and ages: 

Age 4-13: Consider making this a calm down kit instead of a Self-care kit. Personalize this to your specific child’s interests and likes. Include some of the following items: 

Age 14-18: Once again, personalize this to the individual interests and likes. Consider adding some of these items:

Age 19 +: Again, personalize this to each individual’s interests and likes. 

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